Are you aware of the definitions of “abuse” and “neglect”? If not, here are the definitions;
“Abuse” is either a verb or a noun and defined as such.
— v. to use wrongly or improperly; misuse; to abuse one’s authority.
–n. bad or improper treatment; maltreatment: The child was subjected to cruel abuse.
“Neglect” is stated in several uses;
— v. to omit through indifference or carelessness. To neglect to reply to an invitation.
–n. an act or instance of neglecting; disregard; negligence; The neglect of the property was shameful.
Neglect and abuse can be performed without knowing it, much less being aware of the consequences. Today it is easier than ever to passover our children. Many of us are working two jobs, or one job with the hours of two just to feed, clothe and shelter our children, not to mention the square-dancing necessary to pay bills and take care of the home. There are more demands on the average American now than there ever was before. But that’s no excuse.
Understanding debt, finances, investing, charge accounts and accrued interest should come right after the lessons of keeping clean and taking care of oneself. When the cleanest person walks into a fast food restaurant and asks for something to eat, he won’t get it; but if a dirty person walks into a reputable restaurant, with money, he can have whatever he wants.
Ensure your little one has a duty to remember on his own, which he does every day, to form the healthy habit. My eight-year-old walks the neighbor’s dog for half an hour a day and earns $2 each time. This is necessary for him to purchase the bedding needed for his Guinea pig on a weekly basis. Granted, it’s vitamins, food and toys are purchased by Mom, but he sees the cage on a daily basis, a reminder he has a purpose and a responsibility. In addition, he has a few dollars of spending money which he divides; spending half and saving half. A little over a year from now, when he’s ten, we’ll add charity; dividing his earnings into thirds.
When he’s older, even if he doesn’t have the program totally under control, he’ll have a lot more going for him than most college graduates, in the financial arena. I refuse to beat my child, have him without food and clothes, or leave him after school with no way to care for himself, due to lack of financial education. I will not abuse or neglect my child. How about you?