“Okay, it’s time to eat,” the mother says pleasantly the first time, which changes after a few more times to, “That’s enough! Eat your food!” This comment is generally followed by an explanation of how full the children are until dessert is mentioned. Then they feel as if they might be able to squeeze some pie in–they’re sure willing to give it a whirl!
Have you ever taken time from your day, called the kids together to discuss something which you feel is extremely important, and after thinking of the best presentation sat everyone down together? If you haven’t, you’re probably the family the PTA complains about not having any parental communication! At any rate, the kids don’t want to listen anyway. They make it clear that you’re intruding on their time (forget the charts and lists you’ve managed to create, as well as the block of your own time), and they only have a few minutes. Throughout the meeting they are checking out the clock regularly for the first ten minutes, interjecting for the next five, and after that…. the poking and tickling occur. The meeting that would have taken fifteen minutes is now stretching to half an hour and you’ve got things to do!
They have no idea of the swinging restaurant door that is contained in their head, do they? There’s only one door, and all the goods are on one side and the information exchanged is on the other, and the door can only swing one direction at a time! In other words, information cannot go into their brain, or kitchen, while other info is coming out–they cannot talk and hear at the same time! That isn’t to say that the busboy can’t go in while the server is coming out once in a while, but not very often–not without dropping a dish, or vital piece of information, anyhow.
Oh sure, there are those who claim to be able to do both at the same time, but have you had a conversation on the phone while hearing the keyboard at the other end? Facebook is the best, because not only does the person try to hold a discussion with you, but they’re having an additional conversation and typing their thoughts at the same time. They probably don’t realize half of what you’re saying, and after a relatively important question–dead air.
Do society a favor and be courteous enough to either not answer the phone (taking the risk of missing important information), or get off the computer (Facebook can wait, seriously). Multi-tasking may seem to give you bragging rights, but not when it’s the person you’re telling it to that you’re ignoring! After all, do you truly feel important enough to believe other people don’t deserve your undivided attention? Do you feel comfortable having a conversation with your kid while the Wii is going strong and the balance board is causing a “boing-boing” sound? You deserve better, right?
The next time someone takes the time out of their day to give you a call, give them the few minutes they deserve… unless it’s a bill collector. If that’s the case, let’em keep calling because you’re eating dinner. “That’s enough! Eat your food!”